Go with the flow

Sometimes I make plans for my day and they rarely go as planned or don’t happen at all because life. 

But when I don’t plan and just see how the day goes and act on what I’m drawn to do, my days are amazing and fun.  

Today we had one of those day. We made a mess painting and it was great. I even let the boys paint on the glass doors. It’s washable. I didn’t give myself unnecessary stress or anxiety because I had no expectations.  

Raiden Theory painting the box. 

Raiden Theory painting the box. 

They had a fun bath together as always. No crying episodes either. 

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We ate good food and enjoyed the day outside too for a bit.  

Thats one thing I’m working on, not giving myself unnecessary stress and anxiety. Some days I just have to let it unfold organically. 

Go Outside

My life as a mom is one of the greatest accomplishments! I have 5 living children that want my love. It’s the greatest feeling in the world. 

My reality however most of the time is constant go go go. Everyone needs me all of the time. I even need me. It’s very demanding. Most days I don’t get breaks. My two youngest sons rarely ever take naps at the same time. I really feel like they are doing it on purpose in code to each other so they get their alone time with me. So ultimately it’s really hard to take a break. I can’t even go pee and even look at myself in the mirror for a minute without one of them screaming their head off because I’m not holding or wearing them. I seriously feel like I’m going to loose it like every other day. I have my crying fits too. I keep saying to myself that this can’t be life. I can’t do this. I have no time to myself. So many days I’m not able to sew or create. I get sad a lot. Always cleaning too. Non fucking Stop!

Wtf.  

Something had to change. So first issue. I felt I had no breaks. Even when I did technically have 5 minutes to do something I would end up cleaning or something that needed to be done in the house. That usually led to the list of things to do to constantly grow. Completely making myself run down. I realized what I was doing. These things really didn’t have to be done right that moment. 

Some things can Wait! 

So when I had that moment when they might be sleeping or at least content I would take a few minutes to go outside. I started to do it daily and do it multiple times when able  especially on those days I was about to loose  it. It was my little alone time. Here is what I started out doing to be more aware and meditation even when it’s only a few minutes at a time.

  • Go Outside
  • Look up
  • Look down
  • Look all around
  • Close your eyes
  • Listen
  • Take 5 deep breaths

It’s as simple as that.  Over time I started including other practices so I can maintain a positive and happy attitude throughout the day. 

I will be sharing more practices that have worked for me with you in future posts. I have realized how important it is to simply take a moment. Even better when it’s outside. Really in all the outside elements. Fresh air is so vital to our wellness.   

Take a moment and Go Outside! 

🌈❤️ 

Shot from my backyard

Shot from my backyard

3 ways to be calmer when all you see is Red Flames of Fury

We have all been there at one time or another. That moment when someone makes you so mad you want to rip their freaking head off. Maybe they just aren’t listening to you because all they want you to do is keep talking over you and they won’t leave you alone. Your fists are tightening. Your blood pressure is rising. You’ve had enough. 

I know that feeling very well too. I’ve learned how to handle myself better when things may go down that road. Here are 3 practices I started to using to calm myself down when seeing Red Flames of Fury. 

  1. Walking Away
  2. Go Outside
  3. Take 5 Deep Breaths

Simply doing these 3 practices can do amazing things for your well being. However in reality, it’s not going to always be that easy. They probably are going ask where you’re going. Just tell them you need to calm down and you will come back to talk about it after. 

I find I need my sanity and peace of mind, than wasting my time and energy on getting the last word in arguments or possibly worse. So take time to calm down, get yourself together and make better choices with your mind.

Hope this helps. 

Turn your negative into a positive🌈❤️ 

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